Your life is a story.
Whether or not you actually ever write it down on paper or speak it out loud, your thoughts and actions are shaping the story of your life in each moment.
Would you believe me if I told you that you have the ability to write and re-write your life story? Well, the amazing thing is that you can. Now, take out your (metaphorical or literal) pen, love. It’s time to start writing.
Our reality is our perception. Our perception is our reality.
Throughout the last month or so of 2016, I heard so many people talk about 2016 being an awful, painful, scary year. And if I’m being honest, there was a part of me that felt that way myself.
Undoubtedly, 2016 has left quite a mark on all of us; I don’t disagree here, and I think there is a great deal of work to be done in the years to come.
However, the truth is we are ALL co-creators in our lives. Because even if you can’t change what other people have chosen to do, you have the ability to take responsibility for your own reaction, action, or thoughts. Ask yourself ‘what is the story I am going to create?‘
I began to remember that even when issues are happening at a global level that feels unreachable, I have the freedom to use the anger, frustration, sadness, and disconnection I was experiencing to do something about it.
To realize and admit I didn’t understand the world as well as I thought I did. To take responsibility for my role in all of this. To transmute and alchemize this anger into inspiration and fuel for action.
You can write a new and empowered narrative, one where you are the author, actively deciding the story that is to be told.
Did this US election ruin your life? Did the wars and atrocities across the world leave you feeling feel helpless and powerless? Did your relatives and friends sever their relationships with you because of diverging political viewpoints? Is the media destructive?
Or did it wake you up to the (very real) reality of the health of our world and our country? Did it inspire you to wake up and start doing something about it? Did it remind you that the very things many of us take for granted should be appreciated, valued, and actively protected? Did it make you realize that because you ignore and avoid something doesn’t mean it isn’t real or doesn’t exist or happen and that you need to face the full reality, not just the perfectly curated one that exists within your bubble? Did you begin to understand the importance of validating facts, indulging in a more diverse assortment of sources, etc.?
These are just examples that I know many of us can relate to, but in any situation, different people can experience the same thing and each can tell you their own version of what happened.
And while we’re on that note, remember that others will always be able to tell their own stories about their lives, your life, and the world, and you can’t control that. Sure, you can influence it in some ways, but realize that you cannot control it. So write the story that empowers YOU the most, and let others write their own stories.
This isn’t about pretending everything is perfect and good, bypassing all of the pain and challenges present in your story. This is about taking your power back and choosing how you are going to frame and use the pain and challenges. Shifting from victim to creator.
Our lives are the stories we choose to create and tell about what we experience, and this bigger life story is comprised of a series of many smaller stories down to the individual thought level, so each moment is a chance to write this story.
If you don’t love your story as it is right now, I invite you to check in with yourself regularly about what story it is that you are creating, consciously or sub-consciously.
Are you living to support a story about who you are that you’ve carried from childhood into adulthood? To support a story you don’t consciously want simply because subconsciously it feels familiar and safe or it keeps everyone else happy?
Or are you actively choosing the story you want to write, in what you do, what you say, and how you think?
Now, this takes work. Many of us aren’t even aware that there is a choice to be had with many things in our lives, but the beautiful thing is there is.
Sometimes you might not be sure what your story is, but start by becoming an observer to your own life, you can begin to understand. Truly asking yourself (the part deep down inside, not your mind) “Why am I doing this?” without judgment can start to give you some great clues.
If you take this step back and give yourself the freedom to change the story you want to support, in every moment you can begin to write and rewrite your story.
Rewriting your past can help you heal and act from a place of being complete, rather than feeling innately broken, unworthy, or powerless. Taking responsibility for actively writing the present can alter your mindset and actions in a way that can positively alter the course of your life.
As always, feel free to share this with anyone who may find it helpful, and I look forward to hearing how it helps you.
Also, belated Happy New Year! 2017 has been an exciting year for me so far, with the launch of this website! If you haven’t gotten a chance to check it out yet, you totally should 🙂
P.S. If you need some help with this (or other related topics) and are interested in possibly working together, comment below or click the ‘Contact’ link above, and let’s get talkin’!